Breaking Soul Ties

Understanding how and when to break unhealthy soul ties can be a huge part of your freedom in Christ. A soul tie is when your soul is knit with the soul of another.
Healthy soul ties.
Soul ties can be a beautiful, healthy thing like between a healthy parent and child relationship or between spouses in a godly marriage. Examples of this are when we read that a child is knit together in the mother’s womb (Psalm 139). The most clear example is when we read that a man and a woman leave their parents and cleave to each other.
Another clear example is when we read of a friendship between David and Jonathan where their souls were knit together (1 Samuel 18:1-3). I’ve heard debates on whether this soul tie was healthy or not, but that’s not really for us to judge. However, this scripture gives us insight into soul ties and how they truly do knit us to others, for better or worse.
Unhealthy soul ties.
Because soul ties can also be unhealthy ties like, for example, between your soul and a manipulative friend, a sexual partner outside of marriage, or a domineering person in authority.
Unhealthy soul ties can even develop between your soul and a geographical region, a pet or object where your soul is tied unhealthfully.
Unexpected soul ties.
I’ve had to break unhealthy soul ties with sugar and even an old vehicle that I had for 20 years! After I lost my husband, I couldn’t keep up with the vehicles and was forced to sell my favorite old 4 Runner. I missed it daily and talked about this car often… like on almost every drive we took after selling it, for over 2 years. And then I realized, FINALLY, that this was not a healthy thing and likely a soul tie. When something or someone has such power over your thoughts and emotions, that’s a sign it might be an unhealthy soul tie issue.
So I confessed it to the Lord, repented, renounced it, and released that tie in Jesus name and I’ve been able to move forward ever since. I don’t think I’ve lamented letting that car go since I broke the soul tie. This is a benign example, but it shows the power of a tie and also the power of Jesus to help us get set free from soul ties that are unhealthy and have power over us.
Cutting soul ties with former spouse.
If just an old favorite car can have such a hook in us and prevent us from moving forward in gratitude with the new car and new situation in life, imagine all the relationships you’ve been tied to in the past that might be pulling you back into old ungodly seasons and keeping doors open to unhealthy influences.
For example, my pastor told me a story of a man who was widowed. When he remarried, he still spoke about his late wife by calling her “my wife” right in front of the new wife. The new wife had to move into the old wife’s home, as it was, with even the late wife’s clothing stored under their marriage bed. The gentleman didn’t understand that you cannot stay knit and cleaved to your old spouse if you are going to pursue a new marriage. And sadly, his new marriage didn’t survive.
As a widow speaking to others in my situation, I’ll put this bluntly… You can’t have 2 spouses in your heart, even if one is dead.
To put this even more bluntly, nobody wants to marry into a spiritual threesome. Bleh. Marriage is for one man and one woman. You don’t want previous spouses (or lovers or people you’ve fantasized about even) entering the marriage bed or having any access to the marriage bed. And cutting soul ties is one way you can fight for the purity of your marriage with the redemption that Jesus offers by His blood shed on the cross.
Also, it’s important to understand that it doesn’t dishonor or discredit your late spouse to cut soul ties with them. And I know many older widows who never want to remarry and don’t want to break those ties. And that is totally good and well. But no matter your age, if you do want to pursue a new relationship in marriage after being widowed, you must cut the soul tie with your late spouse. This releases you from being one heart and flesh with your former spouse and frees you to welcome your new spouse with a truly fresh start, so that two can become one.
You can still honor your late spouse and thank God for that season and the love you shared even if you break the soul tie. Breaking the soul tie allows you to mentally and emotionally and spiritually be released from your previous marriage (when death did you part) and allows you to mentally, emotionally and spiritually be connected to your new spouse.
Breaking sexual soul ties.
We must cut soul ties with any and all unhealthy relationships as well. Break ties with anyone you’ve had sexual relations and with anyone you’ve sexually fantasized about. Because Jesus explains that lusting in your heart after someone is the same as committing adultery with them. Also cut soul ties with anyone formed by rape or molestation. We want to sever those heinous soul ties in the name of Jesus Christ.
If you’ve been seeking freedom in Christ, but continue to feel oppressed by old chains pressing you down and holding you back, soul ties are good place to start today. The blood of Jesus has the power to break every chain. And when a soul tie is unhealthy and ungodly, it’s essentially a ball and chain weighing you down and pulling you under.
Freedom in Christ.
Seek the Lord today and ask Holy Spirit to reveal any ungodly soul ties that you need to break off in your life. Then confess them, repent and turn from them. Break the soul ties off in Jesus Name and in the authority and power He has given you. Don’t ask God to do this. You do this in the authority He’s given you. In the name of Jesus Christ, I break off the soul tie between me and ______. And I plead the blood of Jesus over me, to wash me clean and set me free and sever this tie in Jesus name.
Til next time… Toodle-loo, and Peace be with you.

If you want to walk in full forgiveness and the full power of the Holy Spirit, here’s a prayer to ask Jesus to wash you clean and lead you in a new life.
If you decided to give your life to Jesus today, please let us know so we can share in your new joy! And seek out someone in your area who loves Jesus and walks in humility who can help show you the way.
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Words of wisdom and sage advice!
Thanks, Danita, for sharing!
Bless you, Ms. Jeanne!